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Dear stay-at-home-mama

Dear stay-at-home Mama,


How are you?  What have you been up to?  Did Timmy win his soccer game yesterday?

Little update on my life.   Boo just finished his baseball season, unfortunately he didn’t make the end of the year tournament but the coach is trying to put together a parent and kid game for fun.  Hoping it’s a day that I can be there, am not working and do not have to drive him 180 km’s to meet his dad for the weekend.  Big kid passed his summer school course with great grades.  He wants to try out for the football team again this year, so if you know anyone doing after school daycare for Boo please forward them onto me.  I’m still training hard.  I get up around 5 every morning to go to the gym and am really lucky my office has a gym at it so I use half my lunch hour to work out too!  I became an elite athlete this year and “can” go for my pro card in November if I choose to.  However I will probably plan to compete again at showdown next year, it’s in my home town and it’s just too difficult to make arrangements to be away for a weekend.   As you know we have the girls on the weekends that the boys go to their dads.  Unfortunately neither of their other parents wants to switch with us so it’s always a bit of a juggling act.  Would be amazing to have them all at the same time since they get along great together however we don’t want to disrupt everyone else’s schedule.  The kids went on vacation with their dads a couple of weeks ago and honey and I went away for the weekend.  Unfortunately I was out of cell service area and big kids dads got pretty upset.  Guess we should not have done that however it was wonderful to have some quiet time with honey and some friends.

In your last letter you asked a couple of questions.  Thought I would take some time to answer them for you.

As for how I keep my house so clean, everybody pitches in.  You would be amazed how quickly you can clean a house when you have all hands on deck, and considering that we have four children if everyone cleans for 30 minutes it’s about the same as spending two hours doing it myself.  Boo knows how to fold towels, hang up his laundry and run the Swiffer and vacuum around, big kid is great for cutting the grass and all of the kids help unload the dishwasher.  I have to admit that some things you just gotta do yourself, like cleaning the kitchen sink and scrubbing the bathroom, but it’s just part of doing everyone’s part to keep the house clean.

In response to where do I find the time for the gym, just wanted to assure you that my kids are just as important to me as yours are to you.  I love my “me” time at the gym, probably as much as you like your ladies coffee dates after school bus drop off.  Personally during the work week I get up at 5am, I belong to Anytime Fitness and it has 24/7 access, that time of day it’s like having a gym all to myself.  I get home just in time to get everybody else going on their day before heading off to work.  I am also super lucky cause my work has a gym at it.  It’s quite small but works great when I am getting ready for a show or a photo-shoot.  When Boo was little I went to a gym with a daycare.  It was great!  For $5 I got an hour of me time and he got to play with kids his age talk about win-win.

You’re right that I sometimes miss “those moments” with the kids.  I can’t always make it to the school assembly where he gets his award for being the most “courageous” in his class at least not when I only find out about it that morning, but I can usually be there if I know in advance.  I don’t volunteer to help during the day because I am working but I generally volunteer to organize some sort of activity with whatever they are involved in at the moment.

No, we do not have a house keeper or cleaning lady, we do not have a gardener and unfortunately the only tutors our kids have are me, honey and their respective other parents.  School day evenings can definitely be hectic, Boo’s still young enough to need a babysitter, and they all have homework and activities.  Yes, occasionally something slips through the cracks… a project not done on time, a teacher website not checked daily or a kid who misplaces the note from the teacher reminding you that your I mean their project is past due.  I am sure none of that ever happens to you since after all your “kids come first”.

Being a mom is definitely hard work!  But it’s also incredibly rewarding.  I will admit that it took a long time to really get the hang of it all.  It’s easy to fall into the pattern of feeling sorry for yourself or not feeling appreciated for everything you do.  For me it was learning to make myself a priority.  As soon as I began to do that everything else got so much easier.  It’s also when the right things came into my life, and my children became happier too.  You know that saying about if mama isn’t happy nobody is.  Well it works in reverse.  When Mama is happy everyone is… or at least usually is.   We do have teen agers in the house after-all

Just wanted to say thank you for volunteering at the school.  I really do appreciate that there are moms out there that are able to do that and enjoy it.  It’s amazing that you pick your kids up from school or meet them at the bus every day, I certainly wish it was a choice I could make.  Thank you for organizing the fundraiser sales for the scouts last season, all of my colleagues loved those cookies and I ran out of room on the order form.

I know that it’s really tough for you to get time to yourself, so let me know if you want to bring the kids over for a sleep over on the weekend, just please remind them that the rules are sometimes different and we do have things like bed times and they will have to clean up after themselves.  I know that the rules are different at our house and yours but I also don’t like being the bad guy because of it.  My kids don’t seem to mind and we do lots of fun things together.   Thinking about a back yard fire and a trip to the water park this weekend and Timmy is more than welcome to come along.


Yours Truly,


One Fit Mama